Do you ever find yourself wondering if you’re truly capable of living up to the person you aspire to be? It’s a feeling I know all too well, and I’ve seen it play out in my life as a wife, a mom of seven, a teacher, and an entrepreneur. Juggling those roles can sometimes make me feel like I’m not truly excelling at any of them, even though deep down I know I’m working hard. This feeling? It has a name: imposter syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is that nagging voice that whispers, “Who do you think you are?” It shows up when you’re stepping into something new or when you’re pushing yourself to grow. Even with all the external signs of success—whether it’s raising a loving family, teaching little ones, or starting new ventures—there’s this underlying doubt. It makes you feel like you’re pretending, like at any moment someone will find out you’re not “good enough.”
This isn’t just a passing insecurity; it can feel crippling. As women, we’re often so focused on doing it all that we feel if we’re not perfect in every aspect, we’re failing. And here’s the thing: perfection is a myth. I’ve learned that trying to be everything to everyone means I lose myself in the process. Yet, even knowing this, there are days when the weight of trying to be the ideal version of myself feels overwhelming.
But here’s the truth that helps me get through those moments: You are enough, right now, exactly as you are.
For me, battling imposter syndrome is about stopping that cycle of comparison, whether it’s comparing myself to other moms, teachers, or entrepreneurs. I remind myself of the accomplishments I’ve made, the love I’ve given, and the lives I’ve touched. I think about the small victories, like getting through a tough day in the classroom or helping one of my kids with their homework. Those moments, though they may seem insignificant, are reminders that I am capable.
And yet, I still sometimes struggle with the gap between who I am and who I want to be. The goals I’ve set feel far off. But growth takes time. One thing I try to hold on to is the idea that even though I’m not “there” yet, I’m moving in the right direction. Instead of beating myself up for not being perfect, I give myself grace. After all, we’re human beings, not human “doings.”
To fight imposter syndrome, I practice gratitude. I journal about the things I’ve done well and the things I’m proud of. I also remind myself that it’s okay to ask for help. Being vulnerable, admitting I don’t have all the answers, and leaning on the people in my life—whether it’s my family, friends, or fellow teachers—reminds me that I don’t have to go it alone.
I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. If you’re reading this and nodding your head, remember, you’re not alone either. Imposter syndrome may rear its head when you’re stepping outside your comfort zone, but it’s also a sign that you’re growing. You are on the path to becoming the person you want to be, even if you don’t feel like it every day. You are more capable than you realize, and the world needs the unique light that only you can bring.
So, the next time that voice of doubt creeps in, take a deep breath, look at what you’ve accomplished, and remind yourself that you are exactly where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding beautifully, one imperfect step at a time.
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